I Have Never Felt So Alone

August 27, 2016

 This topic is very close to my heart as it is something that has really been bothering me lately. Well, I say lately, I mean since the day O was born. I just feel so alone.

To be honest, I wasn’t going to post this, because I didn’t want to cause drama. I don’t like to dwell on it too much, but honestly, since he arrived I feel like I have been abandoned by almost everyone. Family members? Friends? Where are you?

I remember a few years back, someone said “Becoming a mother was the loneliest time of my life”. Boy, they were not wrong.

It’s just so sad that at a time when you believe you will be supported by everyone, people just vanish. You feel like you’re begging people or being a burden when you just desperately want company. Or at least I feel this way.

Since he was born I feel like people are scared to come to see him or ask me how he is in fear that I might see them as a potential baby sitter. I know this is the case, because this is exactly what I used to be like. If anyone ever said anything along the lines of “I wish I could go back to doing ___” and they were with child, I would swiftly change the conversation so I was no longer seen as a possible carer. Realistically, now, I know that when I say I wish I could go back to doing pretty much anything I used to do before, I am just feeling utterly nostalgic, but I much prefer my life with O now.

Half of our family members have magically disappeared like a group of Houdini’s. I have some family who are extremely close to me, like my mam and her partner, dad and his partner, etc. Then I have the ones that apparently must have lost their fingers and their mobile phones. I haven’t received a single text to ask how he is since he was about 3 weeks old.

How is this okay?

I spend almost all day every day at my mams house while Anthony (my other half) works full time, just so I don’t have to be on my own. I’m very capable, but as many of you know, it is absolutely shit when you just spend all day sitting by yourself trying to desperately make bottles while the baby is screaming, keeping them occupied with baby babble and basically driving yourself insane. Of course, I love spending the day on my own with O, but I will much prefer it when he can walk around and talk to me and understand what “i’m doing your bottle now” means without screaming the place down.

I know there are so many mothers out there who feel like this. Motherhood shouldn’t be this way. I don’t want to have to keep myself occupied by doing the dishes, and wiping the sides down for the 40th time, or scrolling through facebook while he’s having another nap. I want to feel involved in my friends lives, I want to still be 20 years old, but with a cute little addition. Unfortunately, when you have a baby, it seems you kiss goodbye to all that. I happen to think the little man would love sitting in a cafe while mum socialises with a coffee. Ha!

I live on the other side of town and don’t drive. I’m crippled with social anxiety so can’t get the bus. I’m just moaning now. I go off on a tangent far too often.

I don’t want a barrage of sympathy, I just wanted to be honest. I’m sure a lot of people will relate.

Do you still socialise with your friends? Leave me a comment below.



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  • Reply Samsam S. September 1, 2016 at 6:32 am

    I know what you mean, I felt like that for the longest time but slowly as my son grew older I found more time for myself to socialise but no where near before I had a baby. Motherhood can be lonely sometimes #AnythingGoes

  • Reply Random Musings September 2, 2016 at 2:48 pm

    This sounds horrible! I'm sure it will help anyone else in this situation realise they are not alone. Have you thought of joining a local playgroup? It might be a good way to meet people in a similar position
    Thanks for linking up to #AnythingGoes 🙂

  • Reply Amy | All Things Amy September 2, 2016 at 9:33 pm

    I feel like I could of written this, I am in the exact same position! I so wish you lived nearby so I could support you, as lovely as it is having a child, being lonely is the worst feeling!

    • Reply MumConventional September 5, 2016 at 8:07 pm

      Hi there, I am so sorry I have left replying to your comment till now
      I completely agree with you. It's so sad isn't it. I have resorted to going to baby groups to try and meet new people, it's bloody awful as I am the least sociable person you will ever meet x

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