Baby Led Weaning? Not For Me

November 15, 2016

“Are you baby led weaning? Oh I am, my son is 6 month and eats a full roast dinner with a knife and fork. He even cooks it himself!”

Okay. That might have been a slight exaggeration.

I never thought I would blog about the absolute buggery that is BLW. I hate talking about it, I hate reading about it and I hate people asking me about it. I dislike how it has become yet another one of those subjects between us parents, along with breast feeding, sippy cups, and all that crap.

I am absolutely petrified of it. I don’t know how many people are in the same boat as me, but what I do know is that I am being pressured left right and centre to BLW. I don’t want to. I don’t think it’s a bad method, in fact, I think it’s the best idea if it works, but maybe I am too much of wimp.

Shortly after I started weaning with purees, I decided to blend up fish fingers/beans and sausages to see if O liked it. Half way through eating it he started choking, went bright red and when my stepdad hit him on the back he threw up all over himself and was gasping. This terrified the life out of me. I don’t know what happened as it was pureed for about an hour, literally, so unless a bit went down the wrong hole – I am still pretty baffled about the whole situation. Because of that, I just can’t give him finger foods, and if I do, when a big bit breaks off, I immediately pull it out of his mouth before he even attempts to swallow. Obviously when it is at the front of his mouth. I would never stick my fingers down his throat. 

All of this comes from the anxiety I have after poor little Jacob from my town died choking on a grape. He was only 2. Everyone in the nation knew about it, it was devastating. My heart absolutely aches for their family, I can’t understand how they must feel, and nor do I ever want to.

Of course, I didn’t even think about choking before this happened. I was pregnant at the time, and promised myself I would be extra vigilant when O was born.

I read so much about BLW before deciding what I wanted to do, and the gagging thing scares me the most. I read the difference between gagging and choking. I read how to do baby CPR – 5 puffs 30 pumps 2 puffs 30 pumps. I watched (thanks to Doctor Ranj on This Morning) how to stop a baby from choking, but I am still not confident.

It doesn’t help that people keep telling me to just let him get on with it, to give him pieces of fruit and veg. I would love to.

The worst thing I have seen is an article referring to people punishing/poisoning their children by feeding them purees because they are not developing their hand-eye coordination and they aren’t experiencing proper food. I also see a lot of “Feeding with purees is so lazy. With BLW you aren’t force feeding them because they know how much to eat”. What a ridiculous mind set to have. O’s hand-eye coordination is fantastic, especially when he is putting the TV remote in his mouth. I also hardly think I am force-feeding the child. He screams when I don’t put the spoon in his mouth quick enough.

There was a point where I wanted to stop the purees and go on to baby led wean, but I was quickly warned off by the mothers who advised me ‘I had made my bed’ and ‘I would increase the choking risk if I tried to do it now’. I can’t win!

It does get to you though, and you start to question yourself as a parent, and I admit I actually do feel guilty for just giving him jars. It’s weird saying this on my blog. I can’t wait to give him his first bit of buttery toast.

I just want him to have some teeth first.


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  • Reply Kim Carberry November 16, 2016 at 9:09 pm

    When my girls were little, especially my eldest. (She's 14 now) There was no such thing as baby led weaning. If there was it wasn't really encouraged or talked about. If I did it all again I wouldn't do baby led weaning…
    Don't be too hard on yourself…He is your child so it's your choice how you feed him. My girls were fed jars and purees and have grown up just fine. 😀 x

    • Reply MumConventional November 19, 2016 at 11:16 pm

      It's very hard. I gave him his first piece of toast yesterday, and he coughed and spluttered at one point, and then he started crying hysterically and spitting the bread out in big clumps (it seems it had all gathered on the roof of his mouth haha) of course, I panicked a little. I figure now I will stop trying to rush it and I will know when he is ready. Thanks so much for your comment! X

  • Reply Nicola November 17, 2016 at 11:19 am

    Aw fern, I completely understand where you are coming from. Why must there be so many tits out there that make us feel bad? I was told by a HCP that I couldn't do BLW because I hadn't breastfed. What a load of bollocks. And as for pureeing being easy and lazy? Obviously whoever is saying that hasn't spent an hour trying to clean out the bloody blender!

    • Reply MumConventional November 19, 2016 at 11:18 pm

      I agree with the blender, that is literally the worst part. I honestly don't know. It's a very competitive world when it comes to babies and it's just another one of those "mine can do it before yours" situations. I don't even care anymore! I am holding my head up and letting him eat his purees in peace haha. Thanks for your comment lovely X

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